The holidays can be particularly challenging for those with a partner or a child with Asperger’s. The social demands, the general chaos, and the expectations can be more than the person with Asperger’s can handle. 

First, understand what is happening and why. Here are some things you can do:

  • Modify your expectations.
  • Communicate carefully and avoid surprises.
  • Make advance preparations for holiday events. Take separate cars if feasible to allow the other person to leave early.
  • Discuss any changes in routine ahead of time.
  • Plan for and make accommodations for situations that may cause sensory overload.
  • Maintain as much as a regular routine as possible.
  • Keep things simple and don’t plan too much.
  • Be flexible.

Take care of others by taking good care of yourself.  This is the time for extreme self-care.

By following these few suggestions, you can minimize disruptions and maximize enjoyment of the holidays.