The Cassandra Syndrome, often called the Ongoing Traumatic Relationship Syndrome, refers to a dynamic that often occurs in partners and family members of people with Asperger’s. The name comes from Cassandra, a character in Greek mythology, who was offered the gift of prophecy by Apollo in order to win her affections. After promising to be his love , Cassandra later went back on her vow, and an enraged Apollo cast a curse on her so that no one would believe her prophecies, no matter how accurate they were.
The Cassandra Syndrome describes a state of confusion, self-doubt, and inner turmoil that is all too common among neurotypical people. Neurotypical partners too often can’t get validation from their Asperger's partner, extended family, or helping professionals. They are often doubted, discounted, ignored, and even rejected by friends when trying to explain their experiences with their partner. Read more about the Cassandra syndrome.
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