Neurodiverse Couples
Do you wonder if your spouse might have Asperger’s Syndrome? While each person with Asperger’s can have different symptoms, some common characteristics are:
- Significant problems connecting emotionally
- A tendency to want to isolate themselves
- Misunderstanding social and emotional cues from others
- A tendency to seem narcissistic
- Inability to manage life’s everyday challenges
Oftentimes even the diagnosis of Asperger’s can be a relief because it can explain hurtful behavior that otherwise doesn’t make sense. Asperger’s can prevent couples from connecting emotionally. Spouses can feel misunderstood and unappreciated due to the person with Asperger’s inability to communicate and to show empathy.
The Cassandra Syndrome
The Cassandra Syndrome refers to a group of symptoms that often occurs in partners of people with Asperger’s. The name comes from Cassandra, a character in Greek mythology, who no one believed.
The Cassandra Syndrome describes a state of confusion, self-doubt, and inner turmoil that is all too common among neurotypical people. Neurotypical partners too often can’t get validation from their Asperger's partner, extended family, or helping professionals. They are often doubted, discounted, ignored, or even rejected by friends when trying to explain their experiences with their partner.
In addition to counseling individuals with Asperger’s, I also offer couple’s counseling. These sessions have three phases: Assessment, Education, and Resolution of Difficulties. As an impartial ally of both parties, I am able to facilitate communication and help find solutions for long-unresolved issues.
